Minisode Monday #12 | Playing Roles and Holding Ladders


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Welcome to the 12th episode of Minisode Monday! We keep finding so many useful tactics and tips that we want to share with you, but they don't fit into the format of a regular show -- hence, Minisode Monday.

We take on roles when interacting with others. But are we in control of the roles we play, or do they come about by default or inaction? Let's find out here!

The Cheat Sheet:
  • When interacting with others, we all play roles. Sometimes these roles complement each other, and sometimes they clash.
  • We don't always choose the roles we play. Sometimes they just happen by default or plain inaction.
  • When two people are working together to get something done, one person may take the supporting role of ladder holder and the other, the ladder climber.
  • In the ladder example, there's nothing wrong with taking on either role. But did you arrive at your respective roles by choice, or did one of you take the initiative to select one and the other just fell into the one left over?
  • This week, think about the roles you play at home. Think about the roles you play at work. Think about the roles you play among your friends. Which roles do you have by choice, and which roles do you have by default or inaction? For whom are you holding the ladder when you shouldn't be?
  • To learn more about social dynamics you can put to use, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444.
  • Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: (he reads everything)!

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