Fan Mail Friday #46 | Outdressing Your Bullies


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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #46! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Kim Seltzer joins Jordan in this episode to offer a genuine therapist's perspective. Enjoy!

In this episode:

  • What dating advice do we have for a couple in a 14-year marriage who just decided to start swinging?
  • How do you deal with a workplace bully who stalks you, threatens violence against you, tries to sabotage your career, and makes you wary of trusting anyone?
  • Is a confident, married wingwoman hurting her single friends' chances at romance more than she's helping them?
  • How do you get your best friend to stop idealizing and pining for his ex-girlfriend and move on with his life?
  • What do you do when you've given up on all religions, but only seem to  attract women who have strong ties to their faith?
  • What's the benefit of outdressing your colleagues (especially when your colleagues dress like day-drinking beach drifters)?
  • How do you fix sabotaging self-talk? Jordan talks about it in this latest video.
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at!

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